昨天在跟一个认识的人留言。
娃儿在等着我玩他发明的麻将。等的有点久了，于是我就解释了一番，我刚刚在干嘛。这个叔叔本来想请爸爸过去当经理。
没想到娃儿想都没想，就来了句：
“how can people ask him for the position if he doesnt know he is good at it”
那你爸爸good at什么？
“he is good at mad.”
我还一度以为我听错了。没想到他继续说：
“那天衣服本来就是坏的，他说怎么就坏了，很凶的样子！”
我赶紧安慰他，抱抱他：
爸爸就是这样的。他不是真的对你生气，他对妈妈也是这样的。爸爸不是在怪你，他有时候说话不笑的时候就是会给人那种很凶的感觉。
娃儿这才不继续记仇。哈哈
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某天晚上，娃爹让我给他留一些吃的。
于是，我给他做了牛排和西兰花。
娃儿虽然没说什么，却发现一直偷偷留意我。
在我把吃的放在饭桌上，他突然来了一句：
“我们要拿个东西给碗盖一下，要不然，虫子会飞进去。”
于是，我让他去准备了一下盖的东西。
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到了晚上，爸爸回来的时候，我们已经关灯了。
但是又不敢出来跟爸爸说话，因为怕又被责备这么晚了不去睡。
于是，他就一会儿问一句：
“妈妈，爸爸怎么都不开灯啊？”
“他怕影响到我们睡觉。”
“妈妈，你说爸爸现在在吃牛排还是在吃西兰花啊？”
“我也不知道！”
“你觉得爸爸会不会吃我们中午剩下的土豆和红薯？”
“不知道啊！”
就这样，他在观察着爸爸的动静的时候，慢慢进入了梦乡。
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我心想，
这孩子也太有爱了吧。
他会害怕，
也会小心，
但他还是在用他的方式，
一点一点，
去靠近，去在意，去关心。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.03.29
原创发布： tingtingma.com
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Tingma’s Parenting Diary | 219. He Loves in His Own Way
Yesterday, I was leaving a comment for someone I know.
My son was waiting for me to play a game of mahjong that he had invented. He had been waiting for a while, so I explained what I had been doing. This uncle had wanted to invite his dad to be a manager.
Without even thinking, my son said:
“How can people ask him for the position if he doesn’t know he is good at it?”
“So what is your dad good at?” I asked.
“He is good at mad.”
For a moment, I thought I had misheard him. But then he continued:
“That time, the clothes were already broken, and he said, ‘How did this happen?’ in a very angry way!”
I quickly comforted him and gave him a hug:
“That’s just how your dad is. He’s not really angry at you. He talks to Mommy the same way. He’s not blaming you. Sometimes when he talks without smiling, it just comes across as very stern.”
Only then did he let it go and stop holding onto it. Haha.
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One evening, his dad asked me to save some food for him.
So I made steak and broccoli.
My son didn’t say anything, but I noticed he had been quietly paying attention.
When I placed the food on the table, he suddenly said:
“We should put something over the bowl, otherwise bugs might fly into it.”
So I asked him to go get something to cover it.
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That night, when his dad came home, we had already turned off the lights.
But we didn’t dare go out to talk to him, because we were afraid of being scolded for not going to bed on time.
So he kept asking me, one question after another:
“Mom, why isn’t Dad turning on the lights?”
“He doesn’t want to disturb us while we sleep.”
“Mom, do you think Dad is eating the steak or the broccoli now?”
“I don’t know!”
“Do you think he will eat the leftover potatoes and sweet potatoes from lunch?”
“I don’t know!”
And just like that, as he quietly observed his dad’s movements,
he slowly drifted off to sleep.
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I thought to myself,
This child is so full of love.
He feels afraid,
he is cautious,
but still, in his own way,
little by little,
he keeps moving closer, caring, and loving.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on March 29, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.