“Baby，你饿了吗？”
“妈妈，2加0是什么？”
“2！”
“所以，你饿了？”我问。
“我很饿！”娃儿笑着回答。
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“妈妈，sit paper是什么？”
“压纸！”
“鸭子！”
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那天，他发现我有双下巴，很像青蛙。
于是就想着弄给别人看。
我说我不喜欢，但是他老捉弄我。
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有个我不会说的词，他故意让我说。
我说：“我不说，你不能强迫我说。”
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这时候旁边坐着朋友，觉得他对妈妈不礼貌。
“你妈妈都说了，她不喜欢。”
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娃儿一下子就察觉到了。
表情有点快哭的样子。
但又忍住不哭。
就那样站着，大概过了一分钟，
慢慢把自己的状态调了回来。
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我看着他那一刻，其实是有点心疼的。
他有时候就是觉得好玩，
但还没有意识到，
自己的行为会不会让别人不舒服。
哪怕这个人是妈妈。
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他在试探边界，
也在学边界。
于是那天晚上，我心平气和地跟他说，你今天在你朋友面前把妈妈的双下巴和发音不准确当笑话看，你这个行为我是非常不喜欢的。虽然我爱你这个人，但是我不喜欢你的行为。
经过这次沟通之后，娃儿应该能意识到自己行为的不妥了。
而我也知道，每次发现孩子的问题其实都是在解决问题。越早发现越好。
很多父母会逃避自己孩子有问题，但那正是需要父母开始正视问题的时候。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.03.29
原创发布： tingtingma.com
写给孩子，也写给正在成长的大人。
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Tingting Mom’s Parenting Journal | 221. Learning Boundaries
“Baby, are you hungry?”
“Mom, what is 2 plus 0?”
“2!”
“So, you’re hungry?” I asked.
“I’m very hungry!” he replied with a smile.
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“Mom, what is ‘sit paper’?”
“Paperweight.”
“Duck!”
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That day, he noticed that I have a double chin, and thought it looked like a frog.
So he wanted to show it to others.
I told him I didn’t like it, but he kept teasing me.
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There was a word I couldn’t pronounce, and he deliberately tried to make me say it.
I said, “I won’t say it. You can’t force me to.”
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At that moment, a friend sitting nearby felt he was being disrespectful to his mom.
“Your mom already said she doesn’t like it.”
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He immediately sensed it.
His face looked like he was about to cry,
but he held it back.
He just stood there, and after about a minute,
slowly regulated himself and calmed down.
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Watching him in that moment, I felt a bit of heartache.
Sometimes he just thinks something is funny,
but hasn’t yet realized
whether his behavior might make others uncomfortable—
even if that person is his mom.
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He is testing boundaries,
and also learning them.
So that night, I calmly told him:
“Today, when you made jokes about Mom’s double chin and pronunciation in front of your friend, I really didn’t like that behavior. I love you, but I don’t like that behavior.”
After this conversation, he should be able to recognize that his behavior was inappropriate.
And I also know that every time we notice a problem in a child, it’s actually an opportunity to solve it. The earlier we notice it, the better.
Many parents avoid facing their children’s issues, but that is exactly when they need to start confronting them.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on March 29, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.