做完家务后，对娃儿说了三次，该关电视，他听到了，就是没理。
最后一次 确实关掉了，却来了一句，“stupid mommy”
我垃圾拎到门口的时候，好像确实听到了。我就把垃圾放地上，返回去问他：“我好像刚刚听到了你说你的mommy stupid。”
他意识到了自己的行为确实有问题，于是他否认。说他指的是地上那个玩具stupid。
我搭着他的肩膀说：“你看着我的眼睛说，你确认刚刚不是说mommy stupid。 ”
果然，他一下子就承认了。
然后，开始怪我。说我刚刚对他生气了。 我知道他在转移注意。
又说我骂他。
于是，我决定把刚刚发生过的事情现场还原一遍。
讲完后，我眼神和语气坚定平静地对他说：“我不喜欢你这个行为，不是不喜欢你这个人。”
我继续说：“你说我stupid，那就是说明你说你自己stupid。你不尊重你妈妈 就是不尊重你自己。上次你还当着别人的面嘲笑妈妈的双下巴。说我像青蛙。你忘了吗。”
这时候娃儿开始哭了起来，抱住了我。
我说：“我们要互相尊重知道吗？你不要在外人面前让我难堪，我也不会在外人面前让你难堪。这是最基本的一家人该做的事！”
我说：“你不喜欢我的话，你去找一个更好的妈妈吧。” 说完这句，我就出门倒垃圾了。
娃儿也跑开了。
倒垃圾的时候遇到了邻居，闲聊了会儿就进来了。
发现找不到他。 连被子也掀起来了还是没有。
我觉得奇怪了，走到客厅，发现他故意拿着两个布娃娃，躲在后面。
然后被我找到后，他笑嘻嘻地看着我。我看他笑嘻嘻的，就也笑嘻嘻地对他说“原来你躲在这里呀！”
然后他也笑了。 我俩又勾肩搭背像没事发生过一样，感觉比发生冲突前的关系更好了。
我笑着说：“向我道歉一下！”
娃果然来了句：“sorry。”
亲一下，果然就亲了。
我们又和好了。
从吵架到和好， 大概十分钟。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.05.01
原创发布： tingtingma.com
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Tingma’s Parenting Diary | #248. From “Stupid Mommy” to Making Up
After finishing the housework, I told my child three times that it was time to turn off the TV. He heard me, but ignored it.
The last time, he finally turned it off—then added, “stupid mommy.”
As I was taking the trash to the door, I thought I had indeed heard it. I put the trash down and went back to ask him, “I think I just heard you say ‘mommy is stupid.’”
He realized his behavior was wrong, so he denied it. He said he was referring to a toy on the floor being “stupid.”
I put my hand on his shoulder and said, “Look into my eyes and tell me—are you sure you didn’t just say ‘mommy is stupid’?”
Sure enough, he immediately admitted it.
Then he started blaming me, saying I had been angry at him. I knew he was trying to shift the focus.
He also said that I had scolded him.
So I decided to replay what had just happened, right there on the spot.
After that, I looked at him with a steady and calm tone and said, “I don’t like your behavior, but I don’t dislike you as a person.”
I continued, “When you call me stupid, it also means you’re calling yourself stupid. If you don’t respect your mom, you’re not respecting yourself. Remember last time when you laughed at my double chin in front of others and said I looked like a frog? Do you remember that?”
At that point, he started crying and hugged me.
I said, “We need to respect each other, okay? Don’t make me feel embarrassed in front of others, and I won’t make you feel embarrassed either. That’s the most basic thing a family should do.”
Then I said, “If you don’t like me, you can go find a better mom.” After saying that, I went out to take the trash.
He ran off as well.
While taking out the trash, I ran into a neighbor, chatted for a bit, and then came back inside.
I couldn’t find him. I even lifted the blankets, but he wasn’t there.
I thought it was strange, so I walked into the living room and found him hiding behind something, holding two stuffed toys on purpose.
When I found him, he looked at me with a grin. Seeing him grinning, I also smiled and said, “So this is where you’ve been hiding!”
He smiled too. We put our arms around each other like nothing had happened—actually, it felt like our relationship was even better than before the conflict.
I smiled and said, “Say sorry to me.”
Sure enough, he said, “Sorry.”
I asked for a kiss, and he gave me one.
And just like that, we made up again.
From arguing to making up, it took about ten minutes.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on May 1, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.