年初的时候，我看到一句话：
“你可以欺骗我的感情，但请不要骗我的钱。”😂
第一次看到时，我笑了很久，觉得这句话太有意思了。
半年过去，我越来越觉得，说出这句话的人，真的很有智慧。
女人这一生，有人被骗过感情，有人被骗过钱，还有人两样都经历过。
可后来我发现，只要自己还有赚钱的能力，还有积累财富的能力，那些曾经以为过不去的伤，很多都会慢慢变成擦伤。
原来，钱从来都不是万能的。
但没有钱的时候，很多问题都会变得特别难。
它买不到真爱，却可以买来选择权。
它买不到幸福，却可以买来安全感。
它买不到时间，却可以买回很多属于自己的自由。
我以前一直觉得，钱没有那么重要，感情最重要。
甚至还说过：”以后要是有太多钱了怎么办？”
现在回头想想，都忍不住想扇当年的自己几巴掌。😂
后来才慢慢明白，对于成年人来说，钱代表的，从来不是虚荣，而是底气。
我相信很多女人跟我一样，哪天心情无缘无故地低落，就会看一眼自己的子弹。
心，真的会慢慢安静下来。
那一刻，你看到的不只是余额。
你看到的是自己的努力，是自己的能力，也是未来越来越多的选择。
以前，我总以为安全感来自另一个人。
后来才发现，真正稳定的安全感，很大一部分来自于自己拥有独立生活的能力。
钱不会让人生从此没有风雨。
但它能让你遇到风雨时，多一把伞，多一条路，多一种选择。
所以今天如果有人问我：
钱和感情，哪个更重要？
我的答案是：
真正重要的，不是钱本身，也不是某一个人。
而是那个拥有赚钱能力、拥有选择权、拥有底气、无论发生什么都能照顾好自己的自己。
当你拥有了这种能力，无论是爱情还是婚姻，都只是锦上添花，而不再是雪中送炭。
因为世界会变，关系会变。只要是活物，就都会变。
真正能陪你走完这一生的，是你的能力，是你的认知，也是你一点一点积累起来的财富。
希望所有善良的女人，都能学会保护自己的钱，守住自己的底气。
一起变健康，变富，变美。
谁阻挡我们成长，就把谁请出我们的人生剧本。🌹
我相信，我们的未来，至少都应该活成 A9、A10 的女人。
当然，前提不是靠运气，而是持续创造价值，帮助更多的人，对这个世界产生正面的影响。
当你的价值越来越大，财富往往也会随之而来。
有钱的人生，真的很好。
愿我们这一生，都能有爱，也有钱；既能温柔地爱别人，也有能力稳稳地托住自己。🌹
婷妈的看见 创作于 2026.07.11
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Tingma’s Seeing No. 37 | Money Really Can Heal a Lot of Trauma
At the beginning of this year, I came across a quote:
“You can break my heart, but please don’t take my money.” 😂
The first time I read it, I laughed for a long time. I thought it was both hilarious and surprisingly profound.
Now, six months later, I think whoever came up with that sentence was incredibly wise.
Some women have been hurt in love.
Some have been taken advantage of financially.
And some, unfortunately, have experienced both.
But over time, I realized something.
As long as I still have the ability to earn money and build wealth, many of the wounds that once felt impossible to overcome eventually become little more than scratches.
Money isn’t everything.
But life becomes much harder when you don’t have enough of it.
Money can’t buy true love.
But it can buy you choices.
It can’t buy happiness.
But it can buy you a sense of security.
It can’t buy back time.
But it can give you the freedom to spend your time the way you choose.
I used to believe that money wasn’t that important.
Love was what mattered most.
I even remember saying, “What if I end up having too much money one day?”
Looking back now, I can’t help but laugh at how naïve I was. 😂
As I grew older, I realized that money isn’t about luxury or showing off.
It’s about confidence, security, and the freedom to make your own choices.
I believe many women feel the same way I do.
Whenever I feel anxious or down for no obvious reason, I simply take a look at my savings and investments.
Almost instantly, my heart feels calmer.
Because I’m not just looking at numbers.
I’m looking at years of hard work.
I’m looking at the skills I’ve built.
I’m looking at the choices I’ve created for my future.
I used to think that security came from another person.
Now I know that real, lasting security comes from having the ability to stand on your own.
Money won’t eliminate every storm in life.
But it can give you an umbrella, another path to take, and the freedom to choose.
So if someone asked me today,
“Which is more important—money or love?”
My answer would be this:
The most important thing isn’t money itself.
Nor is it another person.
It’s becoming someone who can earn, who has choices, who has confidence, and who can take care of herself no matter what happens.
When you have that, love and marriage become something that enriches your life—not something you depend on to survive.
Because the world changes.
Relationships change.
But your abilities, your knowledge, and the wealth you’ve patiently built over the years are what will stay with you throughout your life.
I hope every kind-hearted woman learns to protect her finances and safeguard her independence.
Let’s all become healthier, wealthier, and more beautiful.
And if anyone tries to stop us from growing, becoming healthier, wealthier, or stronger, they simply don’t deserve a role in our life story. 🌹
I truly believe our future should be one where we become women of exceptional value.
Not because of luck, but because we consistently create value, help others, and leave the world a little better than we found it.
When your value grows, wealth often follows.
Having money is a wonderful thing.
And I hope every woman can experience the peace that comes from knowing:
No matter what life brings, I’ll be okay—because I’ve built a life that can support me.
May we all have love.
May we all have wealth.
And may we always have the strength to hold ourselves steady while still choosing to love others. 🌹
Tingma’s Seeing
Created on July 11, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for those who are awake,
and for those who are awakening.
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Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.