有一天，娃儿很激动地跑过来。
那种兴奋，是压都压不住的那种。
他说：
“我拿到一个游戏里的道具了！”
然后他开始考我：
“你知道我是怎么拿到的吗？”
我用很配合的语气说：
“不知道呀？”
他一脸认真地告诉我：
“我是连续玩了七天，
而且一个东西都没有用掉，
所以系统奖励我的。”
我心里第一反应是——
这也太令人高兴了吧。
然后我就跟着他一起开心。
结果，他突然来了一句：
“Everything is about participate。
这样明年想起来的时候，
就会说——我去年有玩过啊！”
……
那一瞬间，我真的愣了一下。
这句话，哪像是一个孩子说出来的？
但它偏偏，就这样从他嘴巴里冒出来了。
我当下脑子里第一个念头是：
这一定是学校老师的功劳。
不知不觉中，
他已经学会了：
怎么鼓励别人，
也怎么鼓励自己。
而这件事，其实很了不起。
我看着他，忍不住说了一句：
“你这句话，说得也太好了吧！”
他笑了。
而我也在心里，悄悄把这句话“拿走”了。
以后如果遇到什么事情，
我大概也会这样对他说：
“没关系，
等明年你再想起来的时候，
你会觉得：
哇，我去年做过这个，我好厉害。
我参与过。”
原来，参与，本身就是一种能力。
也是一种，很底层的自信。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.04.20
原创发布： tingtingma.com
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Tingma’s Parenting Diary | #238. It Turns Out “Participation” Is the Most Fundamental Ability
One day, my son ran over to me, extremely excited.
That kind of excitement—you just can’t hold it in.
He said:
“I got an item in the game!”
Then he started to test me:
“Do you know how I got it?”
I responded in a very engaged tone:
“I don’t know?”
With a serious look on his face, he told me:
“I played for seven days in a row,
and didn’t use a single item,
so the system rewarded me.”
My first reaction was—
that’s actually really exciting.
So I shared his excitement.
Then suddenly, he said:
“Everything is about participate.
So when you think about it next year,
you’ll say—I played last year!”
……
At that moment, I was genuinely stunned.
How does that sound like something a child would say?
And yet, it came right out of his mouth.
My first thought was:
this must be the work of his teachers.
Without even realizing it,
he has already learned
how to encourage others,
and how to encourage himself.
And that,
is actually a big deal.
I looked at him and couldn’t help but say:
“That was such a great thing you just said.”
He smiled.
And in my heart,
I quietly “took” that sentence for myself.
From now on, whenever something comes up,
I’ll probably say to him:
“It’s okay.
When you think about it next year,
you’ll feel:
wow, I did that last year, I’m amazing.
I participated.”
It turns out,
participation itself is an ability.
And also,
a very fundamental kind of confidence.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on April 20, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.