最近，娃儿爱上了《植物大战僵尸》的漫画。
走到哪里，都喜欢把书带在身上。
学校图书馆，二年级学生，一次只让借一本漫画。
公共图书馆，也只有一本库存。
那天，我们刚好去图书馆还书，就顺便问问有没有新书。
工作人员告诉我们：
可以在系统里“request”，
想借的书，会从别的馆调过来，
到了还会电话通知我们。
我顺便问了一句：
“可以借几本？”
她说：
“想借几本，就借几本。”
……
我们俩就坐在电脑前，开始认真选。
一本、两本、三本……
不知不觉，他选到了20本。
然后，他停了一下，转头问我：
“会不会太多了？”
我说：
“不会。”
过了一会儿，他又问了一次。
再过一会儿，又问。
我能感觉到，
不是他不确定规则。
而是，
“从来只拥有很少的人，
第一次面对‘很多’，是会不安的。”
以前一次最多只能带两本在身上，
现在，突然变成20本。
这个“量”，对他来说，是陌生的。
所以他反复确认。
我就一直告诉他：
“没关系，想借几本就借几本。”
最后系统显示：25本。
他又忍不住说了一句：
“我刚刚都说太多了……”
我笑着坚定地回他：
“不多。”
第二天，图书馆就通知我：
已经到了13本，可以来取。
放学接到娃儿后马上告诉他这个好消息。
他一听，整个人都兴奋了：
“快！快！开快一点！”
那种急切，是藏不住的。
我开玩笑说了一句：
“我要是撞到别人怎么办？”
他说：
“没事，这里没车！”
……
那一刻，我差点笑出声。
借到书之后，
他已经在现场翻起来了。
那天，我开始在想：
我们以为，孩子需要的是“多一点资源”。
但其实更重要的是：
当他第一次拥有“很多”的时候，
有没有人告诉他：你是可以的。
不是“你配不配”，
也不是“会不会太多”，
而是，
“你可以拥有。”
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.04.24
原创发布： tingtingma.com
写给孩子，也写给正在成长的大人。
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Tingma’s Parenting Diary | #242. When He First “Had a Lot”
Recently, my son has fallen in love with the Plants vs. Zombies comics.
Wherever he goes, he likes to carry a book with him.
At the school library, second graders are only allowed to borrow one graphic novel at a time.
At the public library, there’s only one copy available.
That day, we happened to go to the library to return books, so we casually asked if there were any new ones.
The staff told us:
you can place a “request” in the system,
and the books you want will be transferred from other branches,
and you’ll be notified by phone when they arrive.
I casually asked:
“How many can we borrow?”
She said:
“As many as you want.”
……
So the two of us sat in front of the computer and started choosing carefully.
One, two, three…
Before we knew it, he had selected 20 books.
Then he paused, turned to me, and asked:
“Is that too many?”
I said:
“No.”
After a while, he asked again.
Then again a little later.
I could feel that
it wasn’t that he didn’t understand the rules.
It was that—
“Someone who has only ever had a little
will feel uneasy the first time they face ‘a lot.’”
Before, he could only carry at most two books at a time.
Now, suddenly, it was 20.
This “amount” felt unfamiliar to him.
So he kept checking.
I just kept telling him:
“It’s okay. Borrow as many as you want.”
In the end, the system showed: 25 books.
He couldn’t help but say again:
“I already said that was too many…”
I smiled and firmly replied:
“It’s not.”
The next day, the library notified me:
13 books had already arrived and were ready for pickup.
After school, I told him the good news right away.
The moment he heard it, he lit up:
“Quick! Quick! Drive faster!”
That kind of eagerness—
you just can’t hide it.
I joked and said:
“What if I hit someone?”
He said:
“It’s okay, there are no cars here!”
……
At that moment, I almost burst out laughing.
After picking up the books,
he had already started flipping through them on the spot.
That day, I started thinking:
We often believe that what children need
is “more resources.”
But what matters even more is this:
When they first have “a lot,”
is there someone who tells them—you can.
Not
“Do you deserve it?”
Not
“Is this too much?”
But—
“You are allowed to have it.”
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on April 24, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.