今天早上，
我发现娃儿坐车的时候没绑安全带。
但我知道：
如果我直接说：
“快点绑好。”
他大概率马上进入：
“你为什么强迫我”的状态。
于是，
我决定换个方式。
我说：
“昨天新闻说，有个六岁的孩子就是在这里出车祸离开的。”
结果娃儿瞬间震惊：
“这么重要的事，你怎么不早点告诉我！”
我说：
“我昨晚吃饭的时候跟爸爸说了啊。”
“你那时候在看电视，我没敢打扰你。”
结果人家立刻继续追责：
“那你睡觉前也应该告诉我！”
然后一边默默绑安全带，
一边还不忘补一句：
“我现在也不告诉你保险箱密码了。”
……
我直接愣住了。
最近我越来越发现：
此娃现在已经开始进入一种，
“终于发现妈妈也有不会东西”的阶段。
前几天，
怕我第二天上班忘了穿运动鞋，
于是我顺口让娃儿帮我记一下。
结果人家一眨眼，
已经把事情写下来了，
还特地放在我第二天早上一定能看到的书包上面。
我当时心里那个感动啊。
突然有一种：
“娃儿长大了，
开始会帮妈妈处理事情了”的感觉。
结果，
还没感动一分钟。
我一转头，
发现书包旁边的地上到处都是他的书。
于是我顺口来了一句：
“你能不能把这些书摆好？”
估计是我语气里的那一点点“不满意”，
瞬间被人家精准捕捉到了。
于是娃儿立刻小脸一拉：
“我不会再帮你记东西了。”
“我也不会再告诉你保险箱密码了。”
……
我当场差点笑倒。
我心想：
此娃果然记仇。
而且现在已经开始进入一种：
“你不喜欢我，那我也不喜欢你“的状态。
哈哈哈哈哈哈。🤣
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.05.22
原创发布： tingtingma.com
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“Tingma’s Parenting Diary | 265. I Don’t Like People Who Don’t Like Me”
This morning,
I noticed my son wasn’t wearing his seatbelt in the car.
But I already knew:
if I directly said,
“Hurry up and buckle it,”
he would most likely immediately enter:
“Why are you forcing me?” mode.
So,
I decided to try a different approach.
I said:
“Yesterday the news said a six-year-old child died in a car accident right here.”
My son instantly looked shocked:
“Something this important — why didn’t you tell me earlier?!”
I said:
“I told Dad about it during dinner last night.”
“You were watching TV, so I didn’t want to interrupt you.”
But he immediately continued holding me accountable:
“Then you should’ve told me before bed!”
And while quietly buckling his seatbelt,
he still added:
“I’m not telling you the safe password anymore.”
…
I was completely stunned.
Lately, I’ve been realizing more and more:
my son has officially entered the stage of:
“discovering that Mom also doesn’t know everything.”
A few days ago,
I was worried I might forget to wear my sneakers to work the next morning,
so I casually asked him to help remind me.
The next thing I knew,
he had already written it down
and carefully placed the note on top of my backpack —
somewhere I would definitely see it the next morning.
Honestly, my heart melted.
I suddenly had this feeling of:
“Wow… my little boy is growing up.
He’s starting to help Mom take care of things now.”
But before I could stay emotional for even a full minute,
I turned around
and saw his books scattered all over the floor next to the backpack.
So I casually said:
“Can you please put these books away?”
Apparently,
that tiny little trace of “disapproval” in my tone
was immediately detected with extreme precision.
My son instantly pulled a grumpy face:
“I’m never helping you remember things again.”
“And I’m not telling you the safe password anymore either.”
…
I almost laughed myself to death.
I thought to myself:
This child really does hold grudges.
And he has officially entered the phase of:
“If you don’t like me,
then I don’t like you either.”
HAHAHAHAHAHA. 🤣
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on May 22, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.