By Pingting
前一秒还在研究退休基金，
后一秒，
居然又写出了一篇《婷妈修心录》。
而且是通过心流，
一气呵成的那种。
——
现在才真正证实：
原来人生里的很多东西，
真的是息息相关的。
——
三四年前，
我第一次真正接触心理学的时候，
李茜老师说过一句话：
“我们生活中的所有人事，其实都是有逻辑的。很多事情，彼此之间都是有关系的。”
那时候我听完以后，
印象特别深刻。
我当时甚至觉得：
这也太有意思了吧。
——
直到今天，
我才开始真正理解：
她到底在说什么。
——
为什么前一秒，
我还在研究退休基金。
后一秒，
突然又哗啦啦地开始写东西。
而且完全不停顿，
直接就在记录本里打字打了下来。
——
因为：
内心平静这件事，
本身就和赚钱息息相关。
——
以前总觉得：
婚姻是婚姻，
金钱是金钱，
情绪是情绪，
健康是健康，
工作是工作。
现在才慢慢发现：
原来这些东西，
根本分不开。
——
一个长期被消耗的人，
是很难真正存下钱的。
因为我们的能量，
会长期处于一种：
混乱、
焦虑、
防御、
内耗的状态。
——
而人在这种状态下，
做出的很多决定，
往往都不是长期正确的决定。
——
很多人不是不聪明。
而是：
长期活在错误的能量场里。
——
所以当一个人的人生，
长期被：
争吵、
委屈、
讨好、
自证、
情绪垃圾、
错误关系、
这些东西填满时，
人的大脑，
会慢慢失去：
思考能力、
创造能力、
长期规划能力。
——
而真正开始清醒以后，
人才会第一次意识到：
原生家庭会影响关系。
情绪会影响财务。
边界会影响命运。
自我价值感会影响伴侣选择。
长期压力会影响判断力。
童年模式会重复进入成年关系。
——
这些东西，
原来根本不是孤立的。
——
太好玩了吧。
——
当一个人开始认真观察自己的生活以后，
会发现：
人生真的像一张巨大的网。
很多看似毫无关系的东西，
背后其实全都连在一起。
——
所以后来我越来越觉得：
如果以后身边再出现那种：
长期内耗自己的人，
我们真的可以理直气壮地对他们说一句：
“走远一点，
别妨碍老娘赚钱！”
哈哈。
是不是突然觉得，
整件事都变得非常威武了。
婷妈的看见 创作于 2026.05.25
原创发布： tingtingma.com
写给清醒者，也写给正在醒来的人。
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Tingma’s Seeing | 35. Turns Out, Everything Is Connected
One moment,
I was researching retirement funds.
The next moment,
I somehow wrote an entire entry for Ting Mom’s Journal of Inner Growth.
And it happened completely through flow state —
the kind where everything pours out in one breath.
——
Only now am I truly realizing:
so many things in life
are deeply connected to each other.
——
Three or four years ago,
when I first seriously encountered psychology,
Teacher Li Qian once said something to me:
“Everything that happens in our lives has its own logic.
Many things are connected beneath the surface.”
At the time,
that sentence left a deep impression on me.
I even remember thinking:
“This is way too fascinating.”
——
But only today
did I finally begin to truly understand
what she meant.
——
Why was I studying retirement funds one second,
and then suddenly typing nonstop into my notebook the next?
Why did an entire piece just come flowing out without interruption?
——
Because inner peace
and the ability to build wealth
are deeply connected.
——
The more I observe life,
the more I realize:
I used to think:
marriage was marriage,
money was money,
emotions were emotions,
health was health,
work was work.
But now I see:
none of these things are actually separate.
——
A person who is constantly emotionally drained
will struggle to truly accumulate wealth.
Because their energy remains trapped in states like:
chaos,
anxiety,
defensiveness,
and chronic inner exhaustion.
——
And when someone lives in that state for too long,
many of their decisions
stop being long-term healthy decisions.
——
Later, I realized:
many people are not lacking intelligence.
They are simply living
inside the wrong energy field for too long.
——
When a person’s life becomes filled with:
arguments,
suppressed resentment,
people-pleasing,
constant self-defense,
emotional garbage,
and unhealthy relationships,
the brain slowly begins to lose:
clarity,
creativity,
and long-term thinking.
——
And once a person finally starts waking up,
they begin to realize for the first time:
childhood shapes relationships.
Emotions affect finances.
Boundaries affect destiny.
Self-worth affects partner choices.
Long-term stress affects judgment.
Childhood patterns repeat themselves in adult relationships.
——
None of these things
exist separately.
——
Honestly,
isn’t that fascinating?
——
When a person truly starts observing their own life,
they begin to notice:
life is like one giant web.
Things that seem completely unrelated on the surface
are actually deeply connected underneath.
——
That’s why nowadays,
if someone appears in my life
whose only effect is draining my energy,
I honestly feel justified saying:
“Please move farther away.
Don’t interfere with my ability to make money.”
Hahaha.
Doesn’t that suddenly make the whole thing feel kind of powerful?
Tingma’s Seeing
Created on May 25, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for those who are awake,
and for those who are awakening.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.