有一天，在开车的路上，
娃儿突然说：
“你得帮我找个地方停一下，我想上厕所。”
我刚好看到前面有一家加油站，就拐了进去。
出来之后，他说：
“我想喝一杯Slurpee。”
我愣了一下。
他嘴巴因口腔溃疡还在痛，也在咳嗽中。
那一刻，我其实有点纠结。
要不要买？
我把我的担忧说出来了，
但他还是坚持想要。
我看着他，最后说了一句：
“好吧。”
他站在机器前，很认真地选口味。
选了一个他觉得不酸、不会刺激嘴巴的蓝莓味。
买完之后，他看着我，很自然地说了一句：
“Thank you, mom.”
那一刻，我其实有点被击中了。
不是一句礼貌的“谢谢”，
而是那种：
他真的很想要，
也真的被满足了的感谢。
上了车之后，他开始自言自语：
“哎，早知道多拿一个吸管了。”
“真的太好了。”
“我也想让你喝一点。”
我说：
“没事，我下次再喝吧，我在减肥。”
他说：
“那下次我请你喝。”
我笑着问他：
“你确定要花你的钱买吗？”
他愣了一下，很认真地说：
“可是我不知道要怎么花我的钱啊。”
我说：
“你不是有现金吗？”
他说了一句，让我有点意外的话：
“可是我不确定，给你买Slurpee是不是很重要的事。
我的钱，只能花在很重要的东西。”
……
我看着他那一刻的认真，
突然有点想笑，又有点感动。
我赶紧“引导”了一下：
“当然重要啊！”
他这才又点了点头。
最近，他特别爱说“谢谢”。
帮他打开水瓶，说谢谢。
帮他找衣服，说谢谢。
给他烤一口pizza，也说谢谢。
说完，还要来一个大大的拥抱。
然后我们俩就抱在一起，
原地跳个舞。
哈哈哈。
有一天，我帮他打开一瓶类似钙片的东西，
他又说谢谢。
我忍不住说了一句：
“现在二年级的孩子，都这么有礼貌了吗？”
他马上接了一句：
“唯一没礼貌的是：
我只挑黑色的吃。”
我笑着回他：
“没事没事，反正吃完黑色的，
其他颜色也要吃。”
就这样，
一来一往，
没一句正经话。
天天胡说八道。
但，
我还挺享受的。
因为我慢慢发现：
爱，并不是发生在那些“很重要”的时刻。
而是：
在这些碎碎念、这些来来回回、这些不着边际的话里，
一直在流动。
而我，很庆幸，
我接住了。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.04.23
原创发布： tingtingma.com
写给孩子，也写给正在成长的大人。
未经授权，请勿转载。
Tingma’s Parenting Diary | #240. It Turns Out Love Flows in These “Nonsense” Moments
One day, while we were driving,
my son suddenly said:
“You need to find a place to stop. I need to use the bathroom.”
I happened to see a gas station ahead, so I pulled in.
After we came out, he said:
“I want a Slurpee.”
I paused for a moment.
His mouth was still hurting from canker sores, and he was also coughing.
At that moment, I hesitated a little.
Should I buy it?
I shared my concern,
but he still insisted on getting one.
I looked at him and finally said:
“Okay.”
He stood in front of the machine, carefully choosing a flavor.
He picked a blueberry one that he thought wouldn’t be too sour or irritate his mouth.
After buying it, he looked at me and naturally said:
“Thank you, mom.”
That moment hit me.
It wasn’t just a polite “thank you,”
but the kind of gratitude that comes from
really wanting something
and truly having that need met.
After we got back in the car, he started talking to himself:
“Ah, I should’ve grabbed another straw.”
“This is so good.”
“I want you to have some too.”
I said:
“It’s okay, I’ll have it next time. I’m trying to lose weight.”
He said:
“Then I’ll treat you next time.”
I smiled and asked:
“Are you sure you want to spend your own money on that?”
He paused, then said very seriously:
“But I don’t know how to spend my money.”
I said:
“Don’t you have cash?”
He said something that surprised me:
“But I’m not sure if buying you a Slurpee is something important.
My money should only be used on important things.”
……
Looking at how serious he was in that moment,
I suddenly wanted to laugh, and at the same time, felt touched.
So I gently “guided” him:
“Of course it’s important!”
Only then did he nod again.
Recently, he has been saying “thank you” a lot.
When I open his water bottle—thank you.
When I help him find his clothes—thank you.
When I heat up a slice of pizza for him—thank you.
After that, he gives me a big hug.
Then the two of us hug each other
and start dancing right there.
Haha.
One day, I helped him open something like a calcium tablet bottle,
and he said thank you again.
I couldn’t help but say:
“Are second graders all this polite now?”
He immediately replied:
“The only thing that’s not polite is—
I only pick the black ones to eat.”
I laughed and said:
“That’s okay. After you finish the black ones,
you still have to eat the other colors.”
And just like that,
back and forth,
not a single serious sentence.
Talking nonsense every day.
But somehow—
I really enjoy it.
Because I’ve slowly realized:
Love doesn’t happen in those “important” moments.
It exists
in these little ramblings,
these back-and-forth exchanges,
these seemingly meaningless conversations—
flowing all the time.
And I’m grateful
that I caught it.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on April 23, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.