第二天，继续听他的安排。
他说：
“我想邀请朋友来家里玩。”
在得到“可以”的那一刻，
他整个人，是肉眼可见的开心。
那种开心，不是笑一下，
是整个人“冲出去”的那种开心。
朋友到了之后，他真的冲出去了，
然后，“砰”的一声，把门撞坏了。
……
刚开始，他是有点内疚的。
站在那里，有点不知所措，
像是在等一个“你看你又闯祸了”的反应。
我看着他说：
“其实坏了也挺好，以前那个门不好开，现在反而更好开了。”
他愣了一下。
然后，慢慢放松下来。
朋友们来了之后，气氛很快就热起来了。
玩着玩着，小伙伴们一屁股坐在了他的充气玩具上。
我在旁边看着，没说话。
他走过去，很平静地说：
“你们能不能不要坐在上面。”
没有哭，没有急，没有发脾气。
只是表达。
那一刻，我其实有点惊讶。
后来，玩到大家都不想停。
他甚至开始“想办法”，
最后跟我说了一句：
“我直接把电视关了。”
我笑了。
这是属于孩子的策略，
简单、直接，但很有效。
中间还有一个小细节。
他的朋友看到他嘴巴痛，不能吃糖，
竟然把已经打开的糖果重新包起来，
说等他好了再吃。
我跟他说：
“你的朋友真的很有爱心。”
晚上睡觉前，我跟他复盘了一下这一天。
我说：
“今天你用语言告诉朋友‘不要这样玩’，而不是发脾气，这个很好。”
他说了一句，让我有点愣住的话：
“我的朋友，有时候很nice，有时候不nice，
但那不是他的问题。”
我看着他。
他接着说：
“他只是还不能控制自己的情绪和行为而已。”
……
那一刻，我在心里，默默给他点了个赞。
一个孩子，
能看到别人的情绪，
还能理解行为背后的原因，
甚至还能选择，
不把人往坏处想。
这件事，其实一点都不简单。
很多大人，一辈子都做不到。
而他，已经开始了。
那一刻，我突然有一种很奇妙的感觉。
好像他，已经不再只是那个
需要被我保护的小孩了。
他开始，有能力去理解世界，
也有能力，温柔地对待别人。
这个周末，很普通。
但对我来说，
意义很深。
因为我又重新认识了他一次。
婷妈的亲子日常 创作于 2026.04.19
原创发布： tingtingma.com
写给孩子，也写给正在成长的大人。
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Tingting Mom’s Parenting Journal | #237. When I Let Him Plan the Weekend (Part 2)
The second day, we continued to follow his plan.
He said:
“I want to invite my friends over to play.”
The moment he heard “yes,”
his happiness was visible to the naked eye.
It wasn’t just a smile—
it was the kind of happiness where his whole body runs forward.
After his friends arrived, he really ran out—
and then, with a loud “bang,”
he broke the door.
……
At first, he felt a bit guilty.
He stood there, a little lost,
as if waiting for the reaction of
“See, you caused trouble again.”
I looked at him and said:
“Actually, it’s not so bad. The door wasn’t easy to open before—now it’s easier.”
He paused for a moment.
Then slowly relaxed.
After his friends arrived, the atmosphere quickly became lively.
While playing, his friends plopped down on his inflatable toy.
I watched from the side and didn’t say anything.
He walked over and calmly said:
“Can you not sit on that?”
No crying. No panic. No anger.
Just expression.
At that moment, I was actually a little surprised.
Later, everyone was having so much fun that no one wanted to stop.
He even started “figuring out a way,”
and finally told me:
“I just turned off the TV.”
I smiled.
That’s a child’s strategy—
simple, direct, but very effective.
There was also a small detail.
When his friend saw that his mouth hurt and he couldn’t eat candy,
he carefully wrapped the already opened candy back up
and said he would wait until he got better.
I said to him:
“Your friend is really kind.”
Before going to bed that night,
I reflected on the day with him.
I said:
“Today, you used words to tell your friends ‘please don’t do that,’ instead of getting upset. That was really good.”
He said something that made me pause:
“My friend is sometimes nice, and sometimes not nice,
but that’s not his problem.”
I looked at him.
He continued:
“He just can’t control his emotions and behavior yet.”
……
At that moment,
I quietly gave him a thumbs-up in my heart.
For a child
to see other people’s emotions,
to understand the reasons behind their behavior,
and even choose—
not to see them as bad—
that is not simple at all.
Many adults
never learn to do this in their entire lives.
And he
has already begun.
At that moment, I suddenly had a very strange feeling—
It felt like he was no longer just
a child who needed my protection.
He was beginning
to understand the world,
and also to treat others with gentleness.
This weekend was very ordinary.
But to me,
it meant a lot.
Because I got to know him all over again.
Tingma’s Parenting Diary
Written on April 19, 2026
Originally published at: tingtingma.com
Written for my child, and for the adults who are still growing.
Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.
Originally written in Chinese by the author.
This English version was translated with the assistance of ChatGPT.